Career Strategy

How to avoid a career that makes you miserable

How to find a career that connects to the life you want to lead, rather than just the one that people expect you to take, or that is easiest for you to follow.

Dean Gollings
Written by Dean Gollings4 min read

Career Strategy

How to avoid a career that makes you miserable

How to find a career that connects to the life you want to lead, rather than just the one that people expect you to take, or that is easiest for you to follow.

Dean Gollings
Written by Dean Gollings4 min read

You might be thinking, well I am a qualified professional, or aim to be, what can possibly go wrong?

Well, the answer to that is, a lot.

Let us start at the beginning. You need to ask yourself some tough questions as soon as you can.

What kind of life do you want to lead? Be honest with yourself.

What kind of life do you want to lead?

  1. How ambitious are you?

  2. What are your life priorities?

  3. In 5, 10, 20 years from now what sort of life would you like to be leading?

  4. How important to you is status, money, flash car, big house?

  5. Are you egotistical?

  6. Do you think family and personal relationships are or will be more important than your career?

  7. What kind of role do you see yourself in and do you really know what it will entail to get there?

  8. Are you prepared to make sacrifices in your personal life or even your health to achieve your career goals?

Where do you fit in?

  1. What kind of organisation do you see yourself in?

  2. What sector do you see yourself in?

  3. Is power important to you?

  4. How good do you think you are?

  5. Do you know how the employment market operates as you become more experienced?

Where do you fit in?

  1. Do you know why even CFO’s/Partners are often frustrated and miserable by their late 40’s?

  2. Do you know why so many accountants fail to reach their career goals?

  3. Do you know what the accountancy career roadblocks are?

  4. Do you really have any idea what the future might hold?

All the above shows why thinking ahead and getting a full picture is vital for your future well-being and career satisfaction.

I for one did not have a career plan. I fell into accountancy, then fell into recruitment. The recruitment route attracted me because I was never going to be a great accountant, did not enjoy it and much preferred working with people as opposed to numbers. The prospect of much better earnings potential was a big temptation. But I did not really know what was in store. I was driven by all the wrong things, status, money and all that went with it. It was high pressure and I soon came to learn that constant pressure did not sit well with me.

Recruiter’s Secret

You will be happier in your career if your ambitions take you on a path which align with your character. I didn't, and so my success came at a personal cost.

Although I was considered very good at my job, I was in a constant state of anxiety. My marriage broke down. So did the next one. By my early 40’s I was a mental wreck and needed a couple of years off. So, my career successes came at an enormous cost.

Do not let that happen to you. You can’t predict every step of your career, but you can avoid getting to a place where the job market has made decisions for you before you’ve had a chance to think.

For a more personalised look at your career, book a 1-2-1 consultation with me (Dean) or take a look at the Advanced Career Planning Manual.

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You might be thinking, well I am a qualified professional, or aim to be, what can possibly go wrong?

Well, the answer to that is, a lot.

Let us start at the beginning. You need to ask yourself some tough questions as soon as you can.

What kind of life do you want to lead? Be honest with yourself.

What kind of life do you want to lead?

  1. How ambitious are you?

  2. What are your life priorities?

  3. In 5, 10, 20 years from now what sort of life would you like to be leading?

  4. How important to you is status, money, flash car, big house?

  5. Are you egotistical?

  6. Do you think family and personal relationships are or will be more important than your career?

  7. What kind of role do you see yourself in and do you really know what it will entail to get there?

  8. Are you prepared to make sacrifices in your personal life or even your health to achieve your career goals?

Where do you fit in?

  1. What kind of organisation do you see yourself in?

  2. What sector do you see yourself in?

  3. Is power important to you?

  4. How good do you think you are?

  5. Do you know how the employment market operates as you become more experienced?

Where do you fit in?

  1. Do you know why even CFO’s/Partners are often frustrated and miserable by their late 40’s?

  2. Do you know why so many accountants fail to reach their career goals?

  3. Do you know what the accountancy career roadblocks are?

  4. Do you really have any idea what the future might hold?

All the above shows why thinking ahead and getting a full picture is vital for your future well-being and career satisfaction.

I for one did not have a career plan. I fell into accountancy, then fell into recruitment. The recruitment route attracted me because I was never going to be a great accountant, did not enjoy it and much preferred working with people as opposed to numbers. The prospect of much better earnings potential was a big temptation. But I did not really know what was in store. I was driven by all the wrong things, status, money and all that went with it. It was high pressure and I soon came to learn that constant pressure did not sit well with me.

Recruiter’s Secret

You will be happier in your career if your ambitions take you on a path which align with your character. I didn't, and so my success came at a personal cost.

Although I was considered very good at my job, I was in a constant state of anxiety. My marriage broke down. So did the next one. By my early 40’s I was a mental wreck and needed a couple of years off. So, my career successes came at an enormous cost.

Do not let that happen to you. You can’t predict every step of your career, but you can avoid getting to a place where the job market has made decisions for you before you’ve had a chance to think.

For a more personalised look at your career, book a 1-2-1 consultation with me (Dean) or take a look at the Advanced Career Planning Manual.

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Practical, one-to-one advice to help you prepare for interviews, improve your positioning and make clearer career decisions.

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